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According to dictionary.com, clarity is a “clearness or lucidity…; freedom from indistinctness or ambiguity.” Although a simple description, it really strikes home with us because it couldn’t be more accurate. Our most significant stumbling blocks in moving forward are a critical lack of clarity in life and in business. A lack of clarity has robbed us of our future dreams, stolen our focus, and drained our enthusiastic drive to move forward and achieve our now dead dreams…buried in the graveyard with all the other “someday” goals.
I remember very early on, a novice in business, someone asking me a simple yet direct question, “Why are you doing this, and what do you expect to get out of it?” Honestly, I stuttered through my answer. I THOUGHT I knew why…to have freedom of time, make enough money to pay bills, and support my family …that’s clear, right?? The thing is, that’s not the answer the person posing the question wanted. It was still too vague. I can’t grow a business, create a plan, or even come up with a mission statement with that. There’s nothing tangible in that statement, nothing I can build with, or develop goals from. I now know, that this question was a purposeful question, to open my eyes to this new revelation …it’s when I woke up and KNEW I MUST create clarity for myself and for my business!
So let us turn the tables on you, do you REALLY know what your dreams and goals are? Do you TRULY know what you are good at or passionate about?
As time moves forward, we realize our passions and strengths can and do shift - we all navigate different seasons in our lives. What interested and appealed to us at one point may not necessarily captivate us now. We are always growing, changing, and discovering new things about ourselves. But we’ve also learned that the whirlwinds of life can seriously muddy the waters, taking us down roads we THOUGHT we wanted to be on, to only one day look up and wonder how we arrived at this confusing destination.
We can only imagine that you’re nodding in agreement as we speak these words. Your dreams have been traded for the 8-5, kid’s soccer practice, cheer, school, meal planning, chasing a business opportunity over there while considering starting this opportunity over here. Doing it all while keeping LIFE running as smoothly as possible - which let’s face it, we would be the first to say we’re too busy reacting vs. executing well-planned tasks. Would you agree you feel the same way? Maybe the life details differ, but regardless, life has lifted us off the ground, and we are at the mercy of where it drops us off. We’ll take that break, plan that vacation, or pick up that business when things settle down or finances ease up. Who knows, maybe you feel guilty, even thinking about “your thing.”
Unfortunately, everything I’ve mentioned is a crippling symptom of a lack of clarity. I’ll rephrase that to help it sink in even more. NOT having clarity of your passion, real strengths, and abilities, will cripple any attempts to move forward and succeed, whether in business or in life.
We’ve realized that many women (including ourselves along the way) have lost our clarity. It’s important to each of us; in fact, it SHOULD be a TOP PRIORITY to know EXACTLY what your burning passion is, and actually be able to create goals and a plan underneath it, building strong support so that it can stand on its own.
We realize that stopping to do some self-evaluation can be daunting, or maybe you even feel it’s long overdue, and you’re excited to get started. Regardless, it’s an important step to take, and we really believe that if you’re here with us, you’re ready and willing to do what you need to do to uplevel your life and create YOUR LIFE designed YOUR WAY.
So let’s not waste any more time. It’s time to get started.
Find a quiet place without any interruptions. Turn off your phone notifications or simply place in another room while you complete the following exercise. Please, take your time, but also don’t overthink it too much. Go with your gut, trust your instincts, your answers may surprise you.
Stop here and complete “The Revealing” exercise in your workbook now, or use the exercises below and answer in your own notebook.
Complete the following sentences. Some of these you may need to think about for a while, others you may know how to answer right away. The Clarity Modules will help you reveal known and unknown (buried) dreams and ideas.
1. Right now, I am excited by _____.
2. I am inspired most by _____.
3. I feel the happiest when _____.
4. I am so bored when _____.
5. I have always dreamed of _____.
6. I believe very strongly in _____.
7. I wish every living person could _____.
8. I believe that ultimate freedom is _____.
9. I become angry when _____.
10. You couldn’t pay me enough money to _____.
11. When I’m busy doing _____, I lose complete track of time.
12. Ever since I was a kid I have wanted to _____.
13. I spin out of control and fall back into old behaviors when _____.
Stop and think about the times you got things back together, in a flow, or felt like life settled down and was “good” for a short time.
1. I get back on track, overcome, life settles down, becomes better when ____. (List at least 3)
2. Looking back over this module, which answer(s) above surprised you the most?
3. Notes/thoughts spurred by this exercise: